<body><script type="text/javascript"> function setAttributeOnload(object, attribute, val) { if(window.addEventListener) { window.addEventListener('load', function(){ object[attribute] = val; }, false); } else { window.attachEvent('onload', function(){ object[attribute] = val; }); } } </script> <div id="navbar-iframe-container"></div> <script type="text/javascript" src="https://apis.google.com/js/platform.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript"> gapi.load("gapi.iframes:gapi.iframes.style.bubble", function() { if (gapi.iframes && gapi.iframes.getContext) { gapi.iframes.getContext().openChild({ url: 'https://www.blogger.com/navbar/7311790855296131160?origin\x3dhttps://nikthezombie.blogspot.com', where: document.getElementById("navbar-iframe-container"), id: "navbar-iframe" }); } }); </script>

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

♥ on some real stuff

alot of people talk about fake people. i was never really concerned with the ever growing plague of phony because i never surrounded myself with them.

(i mean common sense tell you that if you have a friend that likes to gossip about other people, they'll probably gossip about you)

but in light of recent situations i have noticed that more often than not the issue isn't "who's real and who's not"...its how you view your relationship

example- i have one friend who calls me her best friend just because she tells me all her business. suppose one day i was to tell her that i didnt want to associate with her anymore
NICOLE IS FAKE

why? because she thought we were best friends and all of a sudden i say we're not.

relationships never work when they're one sided and friendships are the most important relationships in life. but i wonder why the person who is failing to realize that they are attached to something that isn't there is always the one that points the finger...

hmmm...
  1. because they are hurt
  2. they don't feel they deserve to be hurt
  3. they feel like things were going good and you turned on them
    there would be so much less confusion hurt and drama if we just came out with our feelings
    example- someone i considered to be a very very close friend waited until i said something he didnt like to tell me what he really thought of me (anger brings it out...oh yes). he suggested that maybe we not be friends.


i didnt beg to stay friends (i just waited it out)

but this showed me that he wasn't as attached to our frienship as i was

because there was no way i would ever suggest giving it up over an argument

people don't mind putting up with bullshit as long as they are benefitting from it in someway

he never wanted to tell me he thought i was a bitch before because he wasn't ready to give up the positives that go along with my friendship

BOTTOM LINE

"not everyone who you hangout with even if its daily is your friend, and not every one who is your friend is your bestfriend, the ability 2 distinguish the real and the posers isn't always as clear as black and white, sumtimes its in color. its in these times that you need 2 call on jesus for clarity, because the human eye is only good for so much" -santo's dad

*shout out to santo...my cyber boo who makes sure i always have something clever on my mind to make me smile...we're peas in a pod...a distant pod...with a jet pack*

♥ When you think of happiness, I hope you think of me.
8:16 PM

♥ MYSELF ;

♥ Links;

♥ TagBoard

♥ Thank you

♥ Past